Loving Me
In today’s society, we hear and see a lot about various products, workouts, foods
and the list goes on for women to lose weight. But we also see more today of plus
size women embracing themselves, which I believe is a great thing. However, I do
not hear a lot about women who are smaller being embraced when it comes to their
size. I am on the smaller scale, wearing between a size 4 and 6 in women’s and I
can still wear juniors’. However, I have learned to embrace my size. At the age of
28,I have struggled with accepting my body image for about 15 years. I thought after
I had my daughter I would fill out more (only a little has happened, lol). Over the
years, I have drunken Boost, Ensure, increased my calories, tried to eat before
going to bed, and worked out. Having tried all of this, I have seen some results. I
have heard people say several things to me but I have got to the point to just smile
and laugh it off. I do my best to look for the beauty in other women, no matter their
size and I compliment another female on her outfit, shoes, accessories, makeup,
hairstyle and even say she is pretty, beautiful, but why does my small frame have to
be addressed rather I receive a compliment or not!?!?
For Brown Girls, the whole point I want to make is that; all women no matter if you
are a size 0 or size 20 to love yourself. If you want to gain or lose weight, that is fine,
but first do it for the right reasons. Do not do anything that will cause harm to you
physically, emotionally, spiritually or mentally. Do it for yourself, do it because you
want a healthier you, and do it for the positive reasons. As black women, as black
sisters, we need to love one another, but also learn to accept one another. I leave
you all with this, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your
works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Ps.139: 14 (NIV)
Your Brown Sister,
Ashley
